11/10/2026
'm not going to sugar coat this at all. I'm kinda sick of curated bu****it. And honestly, I am only JUST out of this.
1. Say no - I was near capacity mentally. I didn't have the energy to talk to anyone other than the people in my house. I recognised I couldn't even carry a "how are you" response from someone so I talked to no one so I didn't have to ask. When people asked to chat, I said no. It was a hard boundary I kept.
2. I married someone who has high EQ and values partnership. Seriously, choose who you marry/partner with wisely. That s**t matters when you are struggling. He carried 90% of the load for the last few weeks. Just picked it up and off he went.
3. Largely ignored Kinsley. I didn't attend mentoring sessions, I didn't do any learning, I barely scrolled, didn't post, didn't sell much at all. In fact, we had our lowest weeks. But it didn't matter, it wasn't important. I recognise the privilege in this. But I needed to do the absolute bare minimum over this time. Being a business owner is hard sometimes and I didn't have it in me to show up.
4. Once I felt my energy start to shift, I took small steps. I still had low productivity vibes. So I did one thing on the to-do list, and stopped. Two things on the list, and stopped. I've started getting my groove back and enjoying doing things if that makes sense.
I hope this gives you the permission to just do whatever you need to so that you can move through hard times gently and patiently.
It has probably been a big year for you, full of hard stuff. Protect your energy heading into a time of year where energy can be low. Especially for Ecom owners, Godspeed as we head into this time of year Queens x
