27/08/2026
My child was a very welcomed surprise, and I love being a mum. What I wasn’t prepared for was everything that unfolded afterwards.
We talk about becoming a mum and motherhood like it’s all unconditional love, beautiful birth stories, supportive partners and a village rallying around you. And for some women, that genuinely is their experience. But it isn’t everyone’s.
Sometimes relationships end. Villages aren’t there. Your child barely sleeps and neither do you. You find yourself solo parenting a life you never imagined doing alone — while still loving your child more than anything.
As a solo mum, this isn’t me telling women not to have children. It’s the opposite. I think women considering motherhood deserve honest conversations about what becoming a parent can actually look like, without that honesty being mistaken for regretting your child.
It’s okay to want children. It’s okay not to want them. And it’s okay to want them, but not feel certain enough to have them.
Motherhood can be beautiful. But women deserve the whole conversation before deciding whether becoming a mum is the life they want. 🤍