Gorgeous Kollections by AkyedePa Mo'nyi

14/10/2025

Sel, my wife is surprising me because, this is not what I expected from my future wife. Two weeks after our wedding, we were returning from church when my wife asked me to drive to the drinks shop. According to her she wants to pick some drinks for the house. I happily drove to the shop and for the one year that we have been married, my wife is always tipsy at home.

Sel, her favourites are whisky, Vodka and red label and she is a different person, when she is drunk. She can ask for s*x even more than 3 times a day especially, over the weekends. I have been asking her to stop drinking but she says she is a quite person, so that is what gives her happiness. Interestingly, she looks and appear so innocent and unassuming and no one will believe, upon discovering she does that. How do I help her to stop drinking?

Worried Husband

30/09/2025

Sel, when I got married to my dear husband, everything started well and good but later, things began to change. My husband was not cheating on me instead, he was caring, loving and faithful.The challenge I had however, was that when we started our building project, coupled with other commitments, my husband was not able to give me money as he used to.

Sel, in view of this I decided to date this rich man who likes me, in order to make him my cash cow. In order to let him be convinced and feel free about everything, I told him I was married however, my husband has travelled abroad and does not care, about me anymore.This man has done more than a man could do, for any lady. To be honest, for more than 6 months now, I have been fooling him because he wants s*x but I have never opened my legs for him, despite the amount of money he keep spending on me.

Sel, I don't know how and who showed him my house. I was busy in the kitchen few weeks ago, when my husband came to tell me that, someone was looking for me. When I came, it was him and all he kept saying was that enough was enough, it's either his money or s*x. This caused my husband to come in and unfortunately, the man spilled the truth.My husband has stopped eating my food and doesn't talk to me anymore. Will he ever forgive me?

Anonymous Lady

30/09/2025

30/09/2025

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30/09/2025

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To be seen, emotionally & intellectually attuned to, known, and validated is a human need.
It's a need that fosters our growth and development, and our ability to relate securely to ourselves, and others in relationships.

And when we don't get this need met at least somewhat consistently in childhood and adolescence, we struggle, suffer, and adapt.
We develop strategies.

Some develop walls where they don't even bother trying —
they retreat, not believing anyone is actually interested in knowing them.

Others find themselves feeling incredibly anxious if someone misunderstands them, or feel rejected if someone doesn't reflect their emotions back.
So they over-explain, reaching for external validation so they can feel calm inside again.

For those who didn't receive mirroring and attunement, it can be really hard to trust their own feelings.
They become "external processors,"
and find it hard to feel like their inner world is "real" until someone validates it or mirrors back to them in a safe way.

If this sounds like you, you don't act this way because you're broken,
it's because humans develop in relationship.
To develop secure attachment, we need to be seen, known, understood, and validated to learn how to be able to do that ourselves.
To learn how to trust our own inner worlds and to be able to make sense of our own feelings.

And in secure adult relationships, we offer mirroring, attunement, understanding, and validation to each other regularly.

If this sounds like you, it's not too late.
Healthy, secure adult relationships can help us learn how to meet ourselves safely, and over time we can develop the skill of being able to become more aware of and trusting of our own internal feelings, needs, and boundaries.

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05/09/2025

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05/09/2025

Good evening admin. Please post for me.
I went shopping this afternoon, I met a man at the shopping mall, he took interest in me and asked me to pick anything. To be sure I asked him anything and he said an emphatic yes. So I went from section to section and picked a lot of things from hairs, shoes, clothes, bags, perfumes, jewelry, foods, beverages to wines etc and moved everything to the counter. When the cashier summed up everything it was over 600,000. I turned to the man with smile telling him to pay, he asked me if these things are what I initially came to buy at the mall , I said no that I wanted to just buy a tin of milk, a pack of green tea, a pack of sugar and a loaf of bread. Then he asked me why I changed my plan and added a whole lot of items to my collections, I told him that I expanded my shopping list because I felt he has the capacity to pay since he voluntarily asked me to pick anything. This was where the drama started. The man now said asking me to pick anything does not me I should pick everything, that he is just a middle class citizen like me that he didn’t expect me to pick so much items worth over 600,000. He advised me that when next someone offers to pay my bills for any product or service I should learn to stick to my original plan, I should not increase my appetite, taste or shopping list cos doing so would amount to gr33d. Finally he called me a gr33dy lady and h1$$ed. I asked him who will pay for the things I collected, he said “your grand father will pay” and then walked away.

With sh@me I returned all the items to their respective sections and left the mall feeling emb@rr@$$3d. Am just wondering Why the man subjected me to such embarr@ssm3nt when he knew he wasn’t going to pay ? What the man did to me, is it fair ? And I just want to know if truly I was greedy ? He asked me to pick anything, remember?

05/09/2025

My name is Akyaa Abigail and I am looking for my dead mother’s family. I don’t have memories of ever seeing my mum. However, before my father passed, he told us stories of their marriage, and all the ways she was present for us as a mother.

According to him, their marriage fell apart when I was barely a year old and my sister was three years old. They were living in Techiman in the Eastern region when they had us. Along the line, they relocated to Kofi Pare. It was there that they faced irreconcilable differences and got divorced. Daddy was a chainsaw operator by then and the name they used to call him was AMERIGO.

He said my mum got married again but she didn’t abandon us. While we lived with our father, she kept visiting us with gifts. It was my dad who insisted on raising us himself. Even when she pleaded with him to let us spend some time with her to know her family, he didn’t agree.

His stubbornness continued until he received the news of my mother’s demise. We lost her through childbirth.

After her death, my mother’s family came looking for us. They wanted us to get to know them but my dad rejected them. He kept us away from them our entire lives. When we grew up, we tried to find them on our own but this man blocked all our attempts.

Luckily for us, my sister persuaded him to give us some information about our mum before he also passed last year. He said, “Her name is Korkor Mercy. She was a Krobo. Her people reside in Asutware, around Osudoku.” He added that our maternal grandfather is/was a herbalist called Akakpo who married two wives.

My sister and I have tried using this information to look for them but we still can't find them. So far, we've received three prophecies from men of God to look for my mother's family. According to them, my mother's soul is very sad that we don't know her family.

When I think about the fact that I don’t have any memories of her, it hurts me deeply. Worse, I feel lost knowing that she has a family out there who can tell me stories about her that I haven’t met. I know meeting them won’t bring her back but it will make us feel closer to her. We didn’t get the chance to know her but we can know who she was through the stories her family would share with us.

What was she like as a child? What did she stand for as a person? What were the things that brought her joy? Her favourite food? Her sense of fashion? We have so many questions yet there is no one to get answers from? Our limited means and reach haven’t helped us in our search for her roots. That’s why we are here on this page, hoping someone who knew her would see this story and reach out to us. Please even if you don’t know her, share this post and help us connect with our mother’s family.