02/03/2026
Collective clearing is ongoing. We continue clearing out generational patterns and it’s in full force.
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One such issue is the imbalanced weight placed on women to carry. This is also timely as we see what a botched up job the current leaders are doing, and it’s time to balance out in a more respectful way, between healthier feminine and masculine energies.
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For centuries, women have carried more than their fair share of emotional weight….a lot more…..
Across cultures and generations, women were positioned as the emotional caretakers, keeping the peace and stability at home, the soothers when others are upset, absorbers of anxiety. Men were often discouraged from vulnerability with each other. Emotional expression was shamed. Therapy didn’t exist. So where did all that unprocessed feeling go?
Very often, it went to women. And not always in a nice way.
Alot of unspoken, implicit, automatic weights were placed upon women, without checking in with them what is ok. Women are not just equal partners, but often unconsciously act as therapist, mother, emotional regulator, sexual companion to the other and maintain the house all at the same time. They are holding the fort in many ways. All these implicit expectations came with little emotional reciprocity, very little holding of the feminine.
Traditionally, men had access to work life, control of finances, networks, whilst women were responsible for home and relations. Their value was tied to being understanding, patient, good. And “understanding” often meant tolerating moods, absorbing outbursts, and becoming the landing place for stress, frustration, and rage that couldn’t be expressed elsewhere. Often not far off being a garbage can. Women were responsible for managing not only themselves, the household, kids, but the whole emotional climate. And yet the male is often the one seen as achieving, while the female remains in the shadows. This is a widespread imprint, I've personally observed and experienced.
Whilst this may seem like an old model in the western world, it’s still very prevalent. Even if the story of ‘man at work, woman at home’ is over, those implicit roles remain. Some men today still unconsciously believe women are their dumping ground, and their supply. This is not a respectful or equal dynamic, and is massively outdated though it still prevails.
Men often lacked the know-how to process and hold their own emotions, as it was not taught to them what healthy relating is. (And for some women too, raised in masculine dominant environments.) Emotional suppression of males has been deeply harmful, and In some cases, the suppression of emotion has swung too far the other way, with over indulgence in emotion, leaving men disconnected from aspects of their own emotional and relational strengths, such as leadership, decisiveness, care, and protection. Or women adopting masculine traits excessively to survive in male dominated environments, where there is little safety to be fully in the feminine.
Religions and strict cultural identities have often served to compound these roles.
So when women say they’re tired, it’s not fragility.
It’s generations of being the emotional ground others land on.
Carrying moods that weren’t theirs.
Holding space that was never reciprocated.
Being the steady one while steady was never offered back.
That exhaustion isn’t weakness.
It’s clarity. time for a healthier balance. One were entitlement is no more, and we meet as equals, holding responsibility for ourselves and not looking excessively to others as support when we are not giving it to ourselves, and haven’t built our own foundation steady. The feminine flourishes around a healthy masculine and vice versa. Each need space to express, be held, and seen, in balance. It is not a transactional dynamic. We connect not to get/take but simply for the joy of connecting.
Image: art painting I did yesterday streaming through. (With an added filter)
