09/23/2026
Something I never fully realised until I moved to the US is how much German bluntness made me immune to other people’s opinions. Growing up, it was completely normal to be informed to your face that someone didn’t like your outfit, your shoes, your drawing, your way of playing tennis (oh, that trauma is deeply ingrained just ask my tennis partners lol).
Germans are not meaner than other nations, we are just very truthful and often want to help you see the error of your ways. So I learned early on to defend my opinions and to have my own. Constructive criticism is its own love language in Germany, we believe that not saying anything shows a lack of care, which can be harsh and difficult but also open your mind and heart to other viewpoints!
How to build this type of immunity if you’re not German? I think something that truly helps is to remember that most people judge what they perceive as their OWN weakness, ie it’s probably more their problem than yours.
Also, never forget: life is too bloody short to care. Let them judge - it just means they find you interesting, which is always better than boring in my book.
And if all else fails, I can offer a desensitisation course where I German judge your space. For free ;)
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