The Filial Dish

09/20/2025

Picking greens from mom’s tower garden for burger night!

09/08/2025

Meal Prep Day!

This week’s big prep is:

Mash (potato and carrot for mom’s digestive health and eye sight).

Chicken Verde Soup (Tisserie from La Michoacán, roasted tomatillo, fre roasted poblano, roasted hatch, garlic, garlic chives, broccoli)

Hamburger Steak with roasted red pepper and onion gravy.

Birria with chuck roast. More photos as I get along through the day. I’m building up to reels and things, going at a pace that feels right. Finding a groove as a caregiver/content creator is not the most straightforward activity. But I’m grateful for the grace self-employment creates.

09/02/2025

We are on this pasta heavy!

A few days ago I made a big batch of chili garlic angel hair pasta.

Yesterday I loaded my mom’s crock pot with pasta, frozen asparagus, the last of the cherry tomatoes, a little extra butter and olive juice and set it on warm for the day. She had such a delicious meal later.

My personal remix is breakfast pasta! Volume 1 of The Filial Dish will focus on my main dishes that get remixed into additional dishes the next day. Instead of focusing on static ingredients, my style will be teaching intuitive cooking strategy so you don’t always feel inclined to purchase ingredients every time you need to make a meal.

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08/23/2025

The Substack has arrived everyone! Behold my first article.

Lessons from a 41 year old spinster taking a break from the adventures of life to care of her mom

08/21/2025

Sometimes I think we, as kids, can do too much when it comes to forcing parents to be healthy. The toxic health and wellness industry also feeds extreme ideas on what health means. And people are afraid of loss, death, and grief and are always trying to sustain life as if that’s possible. None of us are making it out of here alive, let’s make it out satisfied, no? Yeah? Maybe?

Anyway, I approach health and wellness very intuitively. All our stomachs are sensitive and we’re bloated, let’s get some cooling foods in our system this week. The week before we all needed iron and needed a break from chicken hormones. This week is heavy on the fish and fresh summer veg and light on heavy dishes (pork this weekend).

My mom has stated many times she feels better than she did 20-30 years ago with me feeding her the way I do. Im just glad she’s happy. Every time I hand her food, she looks like she’s at a Michelin rated restaurant. She has time to do puzzles and learn Spanish and color and watch Countey Wayne…and ongoing videos about Kendrick Lamar and Drake beefs. She keeps me up on rappers business that I never heard of.

I’d like to think she has the freedom to be her most light expression of herself and not exist in pain and pain management because I focus on her bliss and wellness as if they are mutually inclusive.

Chicken Salad recipe will be in Vol 1 of The Filial Dish Intuitive Cooking Guide

08/20/2025

Balancing self-employment, good health for the home, and overall good vibes is not easy, but I’m adjusting to what it means to be head of household.

I am managing finances, food, upkeep and simultaneously locking-in to do the work daily to support the actual existence of my production company.

We needed salad this week. That pasta was the last heavy dish we ate before saying, “ok, let’s freshen up the diet and cool off.”

Tomorrow I plan to prep cucumber and carrot sesame salads, greek cabbage and feta salad, chicken salad with lots of egg and some more carrot and potato mash for mom.

I’m absolutely going to cook this week. We’re doing a Salmon/Imitation crab bake for one meal and soul food for a Sunday meal to appease our ancestors. They want some pork chops, mac and cheese, and haricort vert. And i aim to please!

The more independence I can plan for, the more time I have throughout the week to chip away at the things that matter to me-the individual. A full day of tribal prep, a few days of maintenance, and a day or two of nothing if I can squeeze it.

Household care holds up a mirror to self-care. Make sure you can see yourself in it. Buying rotisserie chickens help a lot.

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08/18/2025

I’ve taken to filling my mom’s dual-sided, personal serving sized crockpot with lunch and dinner and setting it to low after breakfast. That way when she’s hungry, soup, mash, rice dishes, porridge, etc is warm and ready and in her space.

Long live the crockpot!

08/18/2025

Slow cooking, “set it and forget it” is a lifestyle. Tastes like home, feels like love, gives you time to do other things and it’s ready when it counts the most…as long as you set it early enough.

08/18/2025

Of course they want you!!! Remind your elders they are wanted, relevant, loved and honestly still needed.

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08/17/2025

If you’re following me here, please give me the honor of a subscription on substack.

Working on a piece about filial responsibility laws, and filial responsibility throughout history and cultures.

For all yearly subscribers, you’ll receive The Filial Dish Vol 1 recipe PDF which will also be for sale!

I'm a childless spinster who saved all my nurturing energy to care for my mom with a sense of joy, pride, and responsibility. Here we are going to talk about that through the motif of delicious vittles.

08/09/2025

Coconut Cream Cornbread

Wet Ingredients
1 can full fat coconut CREAM
1/2 cup whatever other kind of milk (i used oat)
2 eggs
2 tbsps oil (i used coconut)
2 tbsps maple syrup

Dry Ingredients
1 cup yellow cornmeal (if you like a less gritty corny feel use fine yellow cornmeal or more flour less cornmeal and polenta)
1 cup polenta (i was experimenting and i really like the texture)
1 cup flour
1/2 cup sugar (i used coconur sugar but if you like sweeter, use plain or brown)
1 tbsp baking powder
1/2 tbsp salt

Mix wet ingredients, mix dry ingredients separate bowl. Add dry to wet bowl.

Pour into a buttered 8-10 inch pan or cast iron (i used a 10inch cast iron)

Add honey drizzle (optional but adds nice pops of additional sweetness throughout)

Let set while preheating oven to 375 (keeps it even on top).

Bake 30-35 min

Enjoy with your favorite people!