27/07/2026
To my kids,
There is a fine, invisible line between stupidity and courage.
They wear the same clothes: audacity, stubbornness, determination, loneliness, fear.
They carry the same scent.
That raw one that colonises your nostrils and hits your head, sometimes making a tear roll before you even know what you’re feeling. The same scent that makes you want to inhale again because there is something imperceptible in it you almost want to taste.
They stand the same way: tall, assertive, back straight, chin high, feet rooted deep into your soil and your soul.
They move the same way too: strong but slow. Something almost regal, without the crown.
And they have the same price without costing the same…
One is an investment. The other, a liability.
One leaves you with debt. The other gives you assets.
One expands your patrimony. The other forces you to borrow from yourself or your closest ones.
The inconvenient part is that you often only know which one it was once it’s done.
The outcome gets to name the act.
So spend your 20s testing stupidity
Spend your 30s risking it
And by your 40s, I hope you’ve lived enough to know what deserves another chance and what deserves a never again.
If you choose never again, let it not be from lack of courage, but from an accumulation of wisdom.
And if, after all that, you still choose to keep a what if alive. let it be character.
I love you,
Mama 🫶🏼