05/11/2026
Love Under Construction - Episode 22
Thank you for coming back, we are in week 22. Let's get started...
I'm tired and stressed out to the MAX!
Month 1-3: The Honeymoon Phase
You have signed the contract. You break ground. Walls are going up. Rare 70–80-degree temps allow for concrete walls to go up in the winter without a hitch. Christmas & New Years comes and goes by, feeling so extremely blessed! Then...
Month 4-5: Mid-Build Blues.
This is where the sparkle fades, the delays hit, and the true cost of your dream starts showing up uninvited. Decision fatigue kicks in hard.
Even if you budget well, something always costs more.
Month 5.5: Emotional dip; Current phase
This is the phase where many couples have their first real fight, hence the name "Love under Construction". But I don't really know how to fight. However, my dark side reared its ugly head! It's the GREY "Redhead" in me.🤣
The good news? Almost everyone who builds goes through this exact emotional arc. We have had issues no doubt, but for my sanity I have to put a positive spin on it. This week we had 2 issues that had me going crazy. Bob comes on the scene, explains the process and WHAM, it isn't at all what I thought.
Much ado about nothing. This is often the case. We, on the builder side, do this every day and some of our clients become unsettled over issues like this without realizing that there is a process and it just isn't finished yet. It isn't that our build is perfect, there is no perfect build. Construction is MESSY. There are a lot of opinions and tastes and likes and dislikes and not everything you imagine in your head is affordable or even possible sometimes. But we do our best to capture and create "the vision" on each build we do.
When the going gets tough, the tough go rock hunting...because nothing says 'I'm coping well with construction stress' like wandering a quarry in work boots, pretending I'm a pioneer. Bob has amazing vision, but better friends. A personal friend of his, let us take a huge load of Kansas boulders for a fraction of the cost. Look close at these boulders; the holes were formed many millions of years ago, when Kansas was just a body of water.
I wrapped up the week getting back into my comfort zone, I got to stain 50 16' car siding boards for patio ceiling. They go up in the next episode. Please come back!