19/05/2025
Such good advice for all of us that need or want to downsize and declutter!
It all began on a quiet Sunday afternoon, the kind of day when your surroundings feel heavier than usual—not because of cluttered shelves or messy drawers, but because of something deeper, something unsettled. I was scrolling through audiobook suggestions, searching for calm—maybe a voice that wouldn’t just narrate, but nudge me. That’s when I stumbled on Goodbye, Things: The New Japanese Minimalism by Fumio Sasaki. There was something about Keith Szarabajka’s voice—it was grounded, unhurried, like someone carefully turning the pages of their own transformation. He didn’t sound like he was preaching. He sounded like a man who had lived this journey—awkwardly, imperfectly, but completely. It hooked me. And as I listened, I didn’t just hear a book; I felt a conversation happening inside me, urging me to ask: What are the things in my life that I’ve said ‘yes’ to out of habit, fear, or image? Here are 8 lessons I took from the audiobook—lessons that quietly rearranged more than my furniture:
1. Less Isn’t Lack—It’s Freedom in Disguise: What struck me early on was Sasaki’s brutal honesty: he wasn’t born organized or minimalist. He once lived in chaos, surrounded by things he thought gave him identity. But as he shed them, he found space—not just in his apartment, but in his mind. That hit home for me. I’d often thought “less” meant doing without. But as Sasaki stripped down his belongings, I realized that every item I clung to came with invisible weight—memories, guilt, or the pressure to keep up. Freedom, he taught me, isn’t in owning more. It’s in owning only what serves you now. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, maybe it’s not your schedule—it’s your stuff. Start small. Even one drawer can feel like a breath of fresh air.
2. Identity Shouldn’t Be Stored on a Shelf: There’s a part where Sasaki talks about his massive book collection—not because he read them, but because he wanted people to see him a certain way. That was uncomfortably relatable. He shattered the illusion I didn’t know I was holding: that my things were extensions of my worth. It’s one thing to own a camera because you love photography. It’s another to own five because it makes you look like someone you wish you were. Ask yourself: Would I keep this if no one ever saw it? That single question can clarify a lot.
3. Memory Doesn’t Live in Objects: This one came gently but deeply. Sasaki spoke about gifts and mementos—things we often keep out of guilt, not love. He reassured me: letting go doesn’t erase the people or moments we care about. The memory lives within us, not within the object. I remember standing in front of a shelf of souvenirs and finally releasing the pressure to honor them with space. The memories didn’t vanish. But the guilt did. You can respect your past without curating a museum of it. Let your heart hold the memory, not your shelf.
4. More Stuff, More Decisions, Less Peace: The book doesn't lecture—it gently unveils truths. Sasaki explains how owning too much isn’t just a space issue, it’s a mental one. Every item we own demands attention: where to put it, how to use it, when to clean it. This hit me during a chapter where he describes the fatigue of choice—not the big life decisions, but the tiny ones that pile up daily. I realized that clutter isn’t just visual—it's cognitive. Fewer items mean fewer micro-decisions. And that frees up your mind for the things that actually matter.
5. You Don’t Need to Be Rich to Live Well: There’s something deeply comforting in how humble Sasaki is. He lives in a small apartment, owns few things, and yet speaks with more contentment than people twice his income. His voice doesn’t envy or boast—it just tells it like it is: real richness isn’t in the price tag of your belongings, but in how lightly you can walk through life. If you’ve been waiting to “make it” before you feel at peace, maybe you’re looking in the wrong direction. Simplicity might get you there sooner than success ever will.
6. Minimalism Isn’t a Goal—It’s a Tool: Sasaki never makes minimalism sound trendy or performative. He’s not trying to impress anyone. For him, minimalism was a means to clarity, not an end. I loved how he kept repeating this idea: Don’t count your things. Focus on what remains. Minimalism isn’t about numbers—it’s about intention. That changed everything for me. You don’t have to own 100 items or have a white, sterile apartment. Just begin with intention. That’s enough.
7. Gratitude Grows When You Let Go: This one surprised me. As Sasaki reduced his possessions, he found himself more grateful—not for what he lost, but for what stayed. That made so much sense. When you have less, you see more clearly. You appreciate a single cup of tea, a well-worn shirt, a tidy room. The excess fades, and what’s left becomes more beautiful. If life feels dull, maybe it’s not because you lack—but because you’re overstimulated. Gratitude often begins in quiet spaces.
8. Clutter Can Be a Reflection of Fear: The final and most humbling lesson was this: sometimes we keep things because we’re afraid—of the future, of regret, of who we are without them. Sasaki gently explores how his own attachments were driven by anxiety. As he let go of stuff, he faced himself more honestly. That’s powerful. It made me ask, What am I really afraid of losing? Letting go of objects can be the first step to letting go of fear. And in that space, courage grows.
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