11/17/2020
Where are you right now? Are you sitting on the bench?
If you know me personally you know this has been one of the hardest years with so much grief... and then throw in all the confusion in our nation and our college kids being displaced and loss of income ...what a doozy this year has been.... I could hide under the covers and refuse to come out for a long time and no one would blame me.
But I donāt let my brain stay in that space...I decided not so long ago that anxiety is not my destination... depression is not my destination even though for a long while it looked like I had taken up residence there.
One day a friend called me out. And once I got done sitting with what she said I saw the truth and decided to see if I could learn how to move through those low states to where I wanted to go without getting stuck in them along the way. To get off the bench.
It was a lot of hard, uncomfortable work. But now I can say that moving through those heavy states is by design and choice thanks to a couple coaches and some great mentors Iāve worked with over the years (counseling and therapy are options too... you need to find who is the best fit for what you want to accomplish... also healing your gut is a HUGE component as well).
One of my hacks is that every morning I force my brain to consider and then be blown away... like seriously blown away by how blessed I am to have the spouse that I have, my kids, my friendships and my community. š¤ÆIāve been doing this for so many years now that I canāt not see the blessings and the growth.
This doesnāt mean I donāt feel and have to work through all the difficult things... I still end up in a puddle almost everyday.. at least once .. sometimes twice... but I also know thatās not where I want to stay. So I honor the hard and then choose to be grateful... which leads to joy, which creates a desire to flip the blessings and asking questions like.. who needs me to show up today? How can I give to others whatās been given to me?
