10/02/2026
🚨TW🚨 I’ve been struggling with the internet this week.
The conversations surrounding the Cornell 7 have been heavy, disturbing, and as a survivor myself, incredibly triggering.
There have been moments where I’ve read something, seen a comment, or watched a video and felt myself pulled right back into something I have spent years trying to process.
I’ve had to log off more than once.
And to be honest, I’ve been sitting with a lot of anger.
Not just because of the specifics of this horrific case, but because of how familiar so much of the conversation feels.
The dissecting of every little detail.
The questioning of circumstances.
The debate over what someone should have done differently.
The fixation on whether a situation was truly “bad enough” to call for consequences.
The endless need to determine exactly where the line is before we are willing to call something wrong.
As a survivor, there is something incredibly painful about seeing these conversations happen over and over and over again.
But at the same time, I don’t think the answer is to stop talking about them.
We need to be able to talk about s*xual violence.
We need to talk about consent.
We need to talk about speaking up against violence that you know is wrong.
We need to talk about what happens when someone is intoxicated or incapacitated.
We need to talk about how survivors are treated when they come forward.
We need to talk about the systems that are supposed to protect people, and where those systems fail.
And we need to talk about the 57.
That number alone has left me with a lot of questions about what we, as a society, have normalized when it comes to standing by while someone else is being harmed.
Because this isn’t just about s*xual violence.
It’s about the culture we create when speaking up feels harder than staying quiet.
These conversations are uncomfortable because they force us to confront things we’d rather believe don’t happen.
They force us to talk about consent, power, intoxication, vulnerability, s*xual violence, accountability, and the systems that are supposed to protect people.
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